The idea that you deserve the very best life possible is often hard to accept. It was especially hard for me to allow happiness into mine, because throughout my childhood, I endured continuous verbal bullying from someone particularily close to me. What they said to me quickly began to seep into my subconscious. According to Dr. Philip Shapiro, "Any pattern of thought or action repeated many times results in a habit with a corresponding neurosignature, or brain groove. The brain is composed of approximately 100 billion cells, called neurons. A brain groove is a series of interconnected neurons that carry the thought patterns of a particular habit. Attention feeds the habit. When we give our attention to a habit, we activate the brain groove, releasing the thoughts, desires, and actions related to that habit." (Click here for source)
Once I learned about the power of thought and the physical affects every thought has on the body, most especially the brain, I really began to challenge those negative "labels" with their edifying opposites. I learned this mainly from my spiritual faith, but I started telling myself that I deserved the very best. I was worth something. I was priceless, in fact.
It has been a battle for me to channel my inner light and voice, but I have noticed that the more I expose myself to my insecurities, the better I am becoming at tolerating them or even transforming them. Some of my biggest insecurities are my sense of worth and socializing with young children. But through my public speaking, I have really been able to see my own greatness. I am able to share my passions and my life story with a variety of people, and I have been so blessed to receive gifts and hugs from children who've met me or have listened to me speak.
In those moments, I try my hardest to show my confidence, but often I am shaking in my boots. That's when I "fake it, 'till I make it." I act confident until the thought of it manifests genuinely. Then within minutes, I am at ease and am able to say to myself, "they blessed you. Be a blessing back." This mindset helps me get in tune with my heart. I believe, that what you give, reflects in what you get.
If you accept the fact that you are worthy and important, successful and helpful, life will prove it to you.
MY TIPS FOR LEARNING TO ACCEPT THE BEST IN LIFE AND WHY:
1.) Put the past behind: somethings are not profitable to remember. The scars might still linger, but if you let them be a testament to your resilience, and not your pain, than you will already feel prepared to live with open arms.
2.) Fake it, 'till you make it: if acceptance of love and success is hard to receive at first, pretend until it sticks. These are the cases that you'd want your smile to freeze, lol. By doing this, you are essentially forcing yourself to carve new grooves
3.) Be thankful: being thankful for all you have helps you feel content. A lot of the time, it is because of lack of contentment that some feel unworthy of their desires
4.) Expose yourself to your insecurities: often, PTSD patients undergo what is called, "exposure therapy" to help them realize that a traumatizing event was unavoidable and not their fault. You cannot accept happiness until you let go of the doubt. Purposely ease yourself into situations that cause emotional insecurity. Realize then, that you have the strength inside you to overcome the fear and turn it into victory.
5.) Use positive affirmations: tell yourself short statements of truth and happiness regarding your goal as though it has already been accomplished. If you were to say, Instead of telling yourself, "I'll never get married, saying, "I hold the marriage band in my heart" would help you remember that you're worthy of love and happiness and that you are ready to accept that truth when the day comes.
Once I learned about the power of thought and the physical affects every thought has on the body, most especially the brain, I really began to challenge those negative "labels" with their edifying opposites. I learned this mainly from my spiritual faith, but I started telling myself that I deserved the very best. I was worth something. I was priceless, in fact.
It has been a battle for me to channel my inner light and voice, but I have noticed that the more I expose myself to my insecurities, the better I am becoming at tolerating them or even transforming them. Some of my biggest insecurities are my sense of worth and socializing with young children. But through my public speaking, I have really been able to see my own greatness. I am able to share my passions and my life story with a variety of people, and I have been so blessed to receive gifts and hugs from children who've met me or have listened to me speak.
In those moments, I try my hardest to show my confidence, but often I am shaking in my boots. That's when I "fake it, 'till I make it." I act confident until the thought of it manifests genuinely. Then within minutes, I am at ease and am able to say to myself, "they blessed you. Be a blessing back." This mindset helps me get in tune with my heart. I believe, that what you give, reflects in what you get.
If you accept the fact that you are worthy and important, successful and helpful, life will prove it to you.
MY TIPS FOR LEARNING TO ACCEPT THE BEST IN LIFE AND WHY:
1.) Put the past behind: somethings are not profitable to remember. The scars might still linger, but if you let them be a testament to your resilience, and not your pain, than you will already feel prepared to live with open arms.
2.) Fake it, 'till you make it: if acceptance of love and success is hard to receive at first, pretend until it sticks. These are the cases that you'd want your smile to freeze, lol. By doing this, you are essentially forcing yourself to carve new grooves
3.) Be thankful: being thankful for all you have helps you feel content. A lot of the time, it is because of lack of contentment that some feel unworthy of their desires
4.) Expose yourself to your insecurities: often, PTSD patients undergo what is called, "exposure therapy" to help them realize that a traumatizing event was unavoidable and not their fault. You cannot accept happiness until you let go of the doubt. Purposely ease yourself into situations that cause emotional insecurity. Realize then, that you have the strength inside you to overcome the fear and turn it into victory.
5.) Use positive affirmations: tell yourself short statements of truth and happiness regarding your goal as though it has already been accomplished. If you were to say, Instead of telling yourself, "I'll never get married, saying, "I hold the marriage band in my heart" would help you remember that you're worthy of love and happiness and that you are ready to accept that truth when the day comes.